Heavy topic. The article by Leo Asher set forth below speaks for itself.
For any alienated parent reading this post and the article, realize you are not alone. You are not making it up. Just Google “parental alienation.” The problem is rampant. It’s everywhere, and in every country, every race, every class of society.
To the contrary, parental alienation is your reality. It is your hell. There is no easy solution. The other parent is sick, mean, demented, and very likely has self esteem and mental problems.
Remember, you cannot fight crazy. Remind yourself this: “Not my monkeys. Not my circus.” Walk away. Continue to be in your children’s lives to the extent you can and to the best of your ability at a given moment. But, take care of yourself. Just being alive, and carrying on under the circumstances is proof of your personal strength and the abounding love for your children.
Your efforts will not go unnoticed or unappreciated. Your children will see what you do, and you will be teaching them so much more about life, morals, value and relationships than the other parent could only dream of doing.
Why? How? You ask.
Because the other parent could not handle life if they were in your shoes. They’re weak and flawed. So, they take it out on the only other person on this planet that they can: the other parent.
When all else fails, I found strength in two quotes that became my mantra.
1. “Stick to the fight when you are hardest hit.” In other words, don’t give up. Keep living. There is so much to live for and experience, and if things play out the way most people say they will, one day (and maybe sooner than you think), your relationship with your children will begin to improve.
2. Psalm 119:67, which reads as follows: “Before I was afflicted I went astray, but now I obey your word.” I refer to this as the Michele Obama “when they go low, we go high” words of encouragement. While taking the high road is difficult and may not help in the moment, it will serve you and your children well in the long run.
If you find yourself in crisis, call someone. A trusted family member or friend and just talk. About anything. And don’t be afraid to speak out. Talk to a therapist. Have coffee with you pastor. If all else fails or the other suggestions don’t seem appropriate, the is the National Suicide Prevention Hotline (800) 273-8255.
Help and support are available. You are not alone. And, assistance may come from complete strangers rather than those you are closest with.
Praying for you,
Link to article by Leo Sher